Let's Get It On: 6 Rules for a Banging Sex Playlist

By Dominic Causley Todd

I used to be a steadfast believer in the idea that playing music whilst having sex was weird and a little uncomfortable. I never understood the whole “setting the mood” thing. But then (through a series of events that I won’t go into) I did, and I’m not going to lie, it’s pretty great. Music can really set the tone for the brand of sex that you’re engaging in. It could be a late Sunday night with your long-term partner after dinner, it could be a hook-up off a dating app, or you could be engaging in well planned, consensual, kink-play in a dungeon. The music sets the tone and can really enhance the experience. Here lies the question though; what music is best?

Way back in the stone age you had to pick a single album as your baby making music. It’s 2019 now:we all have Spotify; we don’t need to buy a Barry White CD. As a qualified person who has engaged in sexy times on several occasions I will be imparting all of my wisdoms on the matter. You may take the following 6(9) rules as gospel and nothing less. Here’s how to make a good sex playlist.

Rule 1 – If you know all the words it doesn’t belong

Your favourite song could be “Let’s Get It On pt. II” by Marvin Gaye, which is without a doubt the sexiest song ever. If you know all the words to it, it doesn’t belong on the banging playlist. During your sweet love making you don’t want to be singing in your head. Remember, this is mood setting, not you hanging out with your mates. Use it to build up to the moment sure, make the scene comfortable by playing your fave jam. But Do Not Fuck To It. You want to be in the moment. You want nothing in the world to exist but your partner/s. You don’t want to be thinking about all the words to “4eva” by the Veronicas.

Rule 2 – Bump and grind is sexy but so not sexy

There are so many songs that you hear in a club when you’re grinding up on your very soon to be sexual partner/s. That shit is hot. I’m not going to lie, “Pony” by Ginuwine will get me in the mood like nothing else however please keep in mind when making your playlist that you’re all already horny. This is for when you want to get down to business after you’ve all given informed consent that you want to start bumping uglies. Those types of songs are great for establishing the initial connection or sending signals to the other parties that you’re interested in getting to know them a little more personally but not for when you’re actually doing the deed. Whilst you may think that making out in a club to “Muse” – OCAD is potentially the hottest thing to ever happen on planet earth, having sex whilst that kind of music plays is very far from that.

Rule 3 – Know your Audience

Sex is different depending on who you’re having it with. If it is the person/s you’re in a committed relationship with and want to spend the rest of your life with or someone you literally just met off an app it’s all going to be a little different. Your playlist should reflect this. Slow, meaningful, sexy songs about love and commitment can really do it for you if you’re with your long term significant other/s. Not going to go down so well with someone you’ve known for about five minutes. If you propose to someone and then screw whilst “Marry You” – Bruno Mars is playing, that’s kind of sweet and beautiful and can facilitate some excellent times for everyone involved- but that song is going to go down like a Slayer song in Mass if it is a random hook up.

Rule 4 – Keep it Fresh

I don’t mean this in the sense of only having modern songs on your playlist because that is straight up dumb. People will be banging to Marvin Gaye until the end of time, that is just a fact. What I mean is that you need to keep updating the list. Take the time to look for new songs, there are plenty of lists already made, pick and choose, add songs, delete songs, keep spicing it up. Monotony sucks in almost all aspects of life and especially in sexual relationships. Especially if it is with someone with whom you’re doing it consistently. It’s a sure-fire way to make things boring. Think of your playlist like a plant, it needs trimming, pruning and constant care and attention to really make it grow. This is very similar to rule 5.

Rule 5 – The Playlist isn’t Long Enough

The playlist could go for nine and a half hours and still not be long enough. There is only one thing worse than having the music cut out right as you’re getting to the intense bit of your love making and that is having the same song play half a dozen times. Sex can definitely get awkward, and it quite frequently does, so you don’t want to help make it more awkward by showing off just how limited your music library is. It’s embarrassing and weird for everyone involved.

Rule 6 – Pick your Battles

Having sex with music on may be your favourite thing to do, but its also not for everyone. Be aware of the signals that you’re getting from your partner/s regarding the music. Maybe they just don’t like the songs or they just don’t like music playing whilst screwing. Some people love music during foreplay but then want to cut it off before intercourse and sometimes people feel like it and sometimes, they don’t. This is still a part of sex; consent is vital to you and everyone involved having a good time. So, communicate and be aware of the feedback that you get from your partners.