AGONY PULP: Star Signs, STI Tests, and What Are We?

By Agony Pulp

Welcome to the first instalment of Agony Pulp, your new one stop shop for advice! If you have any questions regarding relationships, study, or life in general, why not have them answered by a seriously unqualified fellow student?  

How early is too early to mention Star signs to a possible S/O? I’m obsessed in a semi-ironic way but I don’t want to scare them

It’s never too early to talk about star signs. Maybe show them a meme (I hated writing that) or ask them their opinion on astrology?

Just please, don’t bring up mercury retrograde.

Dear Dolly Doctor, can you please explain how and when to do a STD/STI test please? I am unsure how the whole process works and am a little scared to ask my own GP.

If you’re unsure about something, it’s better to get it checked sooner rather than later for some peace of mind. If you’re uncomfortable seeing your GP (I totally get it- I’d rather not have that talk with my GP who has known me since I was 3), I really suggest checking out the USYD health services (you can book an appointment here- https://sydney.edu.au/health-service/services/policy.php ). It’s definitely nerve wracking, but I think getting it over and done with as soon as you notice something’s off would be much better.

This guy has never dated before, but we've been seeing each other for months now (!!!!) and yet he still can't even hold my hand let alone kiss me. (big. fck. ripp) losing my mind a bit here. never had a bf either. he studies A LOT. and so we see each other when we can. any ideas how i could move this along?? should i confront him?? should i leave him??

He’s probably nervous!! I definitely think that bringing it up (casually! Let’s try not to scare him- he seems sensitive) and having the dreaded *~*what are we *~* talk would be best- the worst that could happen is you end it with a sense of closure.  

My ex and my ~friend~ are tuning! What do??

First of all, it’s completely okay to be upset! I think it really depends on the friendship and the relationship- did your friend know your ex well? How long had you and your ex been together? It’s a tricky situation, but I’d say if you’re not sure, talk to your friend! If you’re on speaking terms with your ex, you could mention it to them too. Let them know how you’re feeling, or even just ask about the relationship to see if that prompts them to discuss it with you. If it makes you super uncomfortable, you could take a bit of time to yourself to really think it over and see if you think it’s going to get in the way of maintaining the friendship :)

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