AGONY PULP: Trust, Sex Work, Love Island, and When It's Okay to Ghost Him

By Agony Pulp

Welcome to the second instalment of Agony Pulp! Have a problem you want solved? Send it to us here

My friend and my boyfriend are going away together for 2 weeks. They booked the trip together before we started officially ‘dating’ but I don’t know how I feel about the two of them being together alone while I’m at home. Help!!

It’s completely understandable that you feel uncomfortable about this situation; I’m slightly cringing at the thought. However, it all comes down to the magic trust. If you can’t trust your boyfriend or, arguably more importantly, your friend, then what’s the point? Maybe have a chat with your friend and/or boyfriend, and voice your concerns- but in a calm, cool, casual and collected way. At the end of the day, it’s up to them to stay loyal to you.

I am a sex worker and I love my job, but my friends and family have so many horrible misconceptions about sex work, and I’m scared to tell them what I do. What should I do?

This is a tricky situation and I’m not going to pretend I know the answer. Don’t feel like you have to tell them, but I’m assuming it’s a big part of your life and you feel like you’re hiding a part of you. Have a think through your friends and family members, and consider who you think would be the most accepting. Talk through what’s going on with them, and see if they have any suggestions on how to approach it with the people you both know. How are you going to combat the misconceptions? Plan through what you’re going to say and don’t rush the conversation. Good luck!

Exams have started and Love Island is back on air. How can I be sure I’ll pass my subjects now?

Accept your impending failure, download 9now and prepare to sit the same subjects next semester- hopefully love island won’t get in the way next semester.

I’ve been talking to this guy for a while and I thought he had broken up with his girlfriend when I slept with him. Last week his girlfriend came back into the picture again; he never posts about her but she posts about him on social media as well. What should I do?

I’m not a huge fan of ghosting, but I think this might be an exception. You should never settle with being second best, and regardless of how nice he may be to you, unfortunately you’ve ended up with the godawful title of the ‘side chick’. It’s up to you if you want to tell his girlfriend- but I think if you put yourself in her position you’ll have an answer of what to do. Time to move on to bigger and better things!